Are you seeing amazing men in your life that are in relationships and feeling like “why are all the good ones taken?" Are you constantly attracting men into your life that don’t seem to want commitment, are unsure of what they want, or just seem to want sex?
Do you find yourself asking these questions:
Is there something wrong with me?
Do I live in the wrong city or town?
Am I using the wrong dating apps?
Are there any good men left?
Ultimately, you might be wondering, “why do I keep attracting this into my life?"
You might be surprised by my answer. Although there is truly nothing wrong with you, the solution is something that is totally in your control.
The answer is in learning to tap into your magnetism.
What exactly is your magnetism? It’s your ability to feel worthy, your ability to feel beautiful, your ability to feel whole and loved and gorgeous and empowered… by yourself.
The answer lies in your ability to treat yourself the same way you expect or want from the partner you’re seeking and making yourself FEEL it now. While you’re single.
This might sound annoyingly simple, or maybe it feels eye-rolling complicated. But really it’s not. You see, we have forgotten about our magnetism. Our magnetism comes from our femininity. From our divine right to be Women, in all that we are.
What we have forgotten in our quest to attain goals and achieve success is our connection to our Feminine.
Attracting a magnificent relationship is only part of what you will get once you connect with that part of you. You will attain deeper, more satisfying success in all areas of your life! Career, money, sex, health, raising your kids (if you have them, or want them) and certainly in dating and maintaining a wonderfully passionate, deeply intimate long-lasting relationship.
In our culture of instant gratification, some women don’t want to have to do this kind of work, to connect with themselves FIRST before going out and finding a high-quality guy.
But trust me on this, the inner work of reclaiming your magnetism is a tiny investment into what you will begin to attract. The results are pretty immediate and only deepen with your commitment to yourself.
One of the first exercises I have my clients do in my program is getting crystal clear on how they want to feel in a relationship. NOT what kind of guy they want, how he should look, or what kind of job he should have. Also not listing that you want to have 2 luxury cars and live in the coolest part of town and have everyone be envious of your amazing life….That stuff is surface stuff and completely attainable, but not in a satisfying, sustainable way, without the other. If you got everything on that list and yet you felt loneliness and despair in your life, none of it would be worth it.
Now if you think I’m saying that you should actively look for a life of simplicity or having no money because you can only have love or money and not both, I’m not. In fact, I’m not saying that at all.
What I’m saying is it starts with getting clear on how you want to feel in a relationship. Because let’s get super real here, if you feel great in your relationship then money matters less but is a wonderful bonus. If you feel bad in your relationship, then money or no money, your life will suck.
I also truly believe that once you’re clear on how you want to feel, you will attract all the goodness of life in all areas of your life, including plenty of money to live a happy life too…
It starts with a vision of how you want to feel. You probably want to feel loved, respected, cherished, heard, seen, adored, prioritized….etc. Make a list of how you want to FEEL in a relationship and stick to the feelings.
This is the first (and biggest) step to getting everything you desire…. In any area of your life.