As a midwife for 10 years and counting, I’ve seen over 500 couples transition from couplehood to triplehood and quadruplehood and more. I have supported them, watched them flourish (and sometimes flail) and have had the pleasure of giving them love… and more love… and showering them with support.
At least, I did it to the best of my ability, given my role as midwife.
Truth be told, I have always wished that I could give my couples even more of the support they needed, but as a midwife, my time was mostly allocated to giving clinical care and labour or breastfeeding support during the pregnancy and birth and for the baby. Clinical care always came first – as it should for a midwife – but it was difficult as I saw countless couples struggle in their relationship during the pregnancy and beyond.
Being sleep deprived, unsure of what to do with a new baby, having preconceived expectations that weren’t being met, finding it more challenging to balance everything while having a newborn…the list goes on and is, ultimately, a potential recipe for disaster.
Countless couples struggled visibly, and rarely did they realize that they were not the only ones having difficulties. Invariably they thought that they were somehow doing something “wrong,” or that they just couldn’t get their crap together (like everyone else could.) And if their situation was particularly bad, they often suffered in silence. How could they complain about being tired, overwhelmed, frustrated, or even disappointed when their partner had just carried a baby for nine months and had gone through the craziness of giving birth?
Seeing those couples struggle, watching from the sidelines, was perhaps one of the most difficult things I faced in my work. It broke my heart every time! And so I resolved to do something different…to make a change in the lives of the couples that I worked with so they no longer had to struggle in silence. So they could receive the relationships support that new parents often need.
Enter the decision to birth my own coaching practice, to fulfill my mission: To help couples to build upon the strengths and positive aspects they already have in their relationship in such a way as to allow them to forge a new, even better, connection through their pregnancy, childbirth, and post-baby experiences.
And let me tell you, there’s nothing quite like doing the work I was meant to do!
Helping couples thrive through the transition of having a baby is so satisfying and can be completely simple. That’s the remarkable thing. It doesn’t have to be complicated! It can easily be a win-win for both sides and ultimately a huge family-win for parents and baby!
I’m a mother of two beautiful daughters aged 17 and 20. I’m a proud stepmother to two gorgeous boys aged 7 and 9. And was a step mom to a boy for 12 years during my 2nd marriage, raising him through the teenage years and into adulthood. I’ve had 5 kids in my life, and I’m SO LUCKY!
When my first marriage fell apart after the birth of my first daughter, we went to therapy in an attempt to salvage the relationship, got back together, and I became pregnant with our second daughter. We were, however, still broken, and finally called it quits for real when I was 3 months pregnant. After two marriages, I’ve learned a thing or two about what it is to grow and evolve as partners through many of life’s challenges!
I’m uniquely qualified to support you!
Combined with my personal commitment to self-growth and understanding, a life rich in parenting anecdotes and real-life in-the-trenches experience as a midwife, and my own natural way of being (non-judgemental and super-compassionate) with a certificate in positive psychology and the incredible experiences I’ve had working with hundreds of couples – phew! – it is all of that that makes me uniquely qualified to do what I do.
And I can’t wait to support YOU.
Positive Coupling is a coaching program for couples that has been birthed from years of experience helping couples become a family and deep inner work on my own personal growth. My Certificate in Positive Psychology (CAPP) has given me the tools to provide couples like you with scientifically-backed unique techniques, exercises and activities to keep, maintain and build on the connection you already have as a couple while providing a way to stay grounded in that stability through the potentially tumultuous time of becoming new parents..
Through my couples coaching, you are building a foundation and strengthening that foundation so that when the situation gets tough that foundation will hold – every single time.
Call me for a 30 minute complimentary coaching session to see if we’re the right fit. There’s no obligation, no sales pitch, just a conversation to uncover what type of support you and your partner need, and if I’m the best one to provide it. I look forward to our call!