As a midwife for 10 years and counting, I’ve seen over 500 happy, blissful couples transition into parenthood. These couples often came into my care so excited, so happy, so connected only to find that life with a new baby was really different. Many couples had no idea how to navigate their relationship once the baby was in the mix. This is where my passion for relationship coaching was born.
It reminded me over and over again of how I struggled, 20 years ago, in my own relationship when my children were born!
Truth be told, I have always wished that I could give my couples even more of the support they needed, but as a midwife, my time was mostly allocated to giving clinical care and labour or breastfeeding support during the pregnancy and birth and for the baby. Clinical care always came first – as it should for a midwife – but it was difficult as I saw countless couples struggle in their relationship during the pregnancy and beyond.
That said, many couples were still in the fog of daily survival and relationship support was just something they didn’t know they needed.
Countless couples struggled visibly, and rarely did they realize that they were not the only ones having difficulties. Invariably they thought that they were somehow doing something “wrong,” or that they just couldn’t get their life together (like everyone else could.) And if their situation was particularly bad, they often suffered in silence.
How could they complain about being tired, overwhelmed, frustrated, or even disappointed when their partner had just carried a baby for nine months and had gone through the craziness of giving birth?
Seeing those couples struggle, watching from the sidelines, was perhaps one of the most difficult things I faced in my work. It broke my heart every time! And so I resolved to do something different…to make a change in the lives of the couples that I worked with so they no longer had to struggle in silence. So they could receive the relationships support that new parents often need.
Enter the decision to birth my own coaching practice, to fulfill my mission: To help couples rekindle and strengthen their connection after having children.
And let me tell you, there’s nothing quite like doing the work I was meant to do!
Helping couples thrive through the transition of having a baby is so satisfying and can be completely simple. That’s the remarkable thing. It doesn’t have to be complicated! It can easily be a win-win for both sides and ultimately a huge family-win for parents and child!
I’m a mother of two beautiful daughters aged 18 and 20. I’m a proud stepmother to two gorgeous boys aged 7 and 9. And was a step mom to a boy for 12 years during my 2nd marriage, raising him through the teenage years and into adulthood. I’ve had 5 kids in my life, and I’m SO LUCKY!
When my first marriage fell apart after the birth of my first daughter, we went to therapy in an attempt to salvage the relationship, got back together, and I became pregnant with our second daughter. We were, however, still broken, and finally called it quits for real when I was 3 months pregnant with her. After two failed marriages, I’ve learned a thing or two about what it is to grow and evolve as partners through many of life’s challenges!
The relationship I am in now is strong and beautiful beyond my wildest dreams. I finally learned through strife and struggle what not to do, and finally what works! I want to share with you all of my life’s lessons so you don’t have to reinvent the wheel!
If I can prevent ONE divorce my life’s mission will be complete. Hopefully, through this work, I’ve prevented more than one. But we’ll never know (thankfully) because you won’t get to the brink of divorce if you use my program. You will be able to make your relationship work!
I’m uniquely qualified to support you!
Combined with my personal commitment to self-growth and understanding, a life rich in parenting anecdotes and real-life in-the-trenches experience as a midwife, and my own natural way of being (non-judgemental and super-compassionate) with a certificate in positive psychology and relationship coach training, the incredible experiences I’ve had working with hundreds of couples as well as my own relationships – phew! – it is all of that that makes me uniquely qualified to do what I do.
And I can’t wait to support YOU.
Positive Coupling is a coaching program that has been birthed from years of experience helping couples become a family and deep inner work on my own personal growth. My Certificate in Positive Psychology (CAPP) has given me the tools to provide couples like you with scientifically-backed unique techniques, exercises and activities to keep, maintain and build on the connection you already have as a couple.
Through my couples coaching, you are building (or rebuilding) the foundation of connection and intimacy that you crave. The desires you’ve had to have a deeply loving and intimate connection with your partner while raising your family can finally come true! You really can have it all in love and life!
Call me for a 30 minute complimentary coaching session to see if we’re the right fit. There’s no obligation, no sales pitch, just a conversation to uncover your desires for your relationship and some suggestions on how to get there! I look forward to our call!